Here’s mommy (and daddy) 10 years after I graduated high school at my reunion. Don’t ask about my hair and makeup haha, I always make interesting choices.
However, I want to give you guys some advice from my own experience. If I have anything to do with your high school life, you wouldn’t have gone through half the stuff I went through.
Mommy didn’t take high school as serious as she should have. I was more worried about making other people happy before myself, and my family. Granted, I did what I wanted to most of the time. Grandma let me go to dances when we could afford it. She didn’t let me play sports because she said I was too skinny and my bones would break. However, I found out it was because we didn’t have health insurance nor the money to keep up with the sports. I turned to breakdancing, and I cared more about how I looked, trying to be in love, and didn’t respect myself, or had the same confidence as I should have. I didn’t spend as much time or love my siblings as I should have. I disrespected my parents. I thought I knew it all, but I was a lost soul.
If I could go back, I wouldn’t because everything worked out so beautifully now. But, I do wish I knew what I know now. And, now I am here to share it with you. Here are 18 things I wish someone told me through my 18 years of life and school.
1. Never forget where you came from. This includes your values, how you were raised, and your family. Your morals and character will take you further than you’ll ever know.
2. Always put your family first. Don’t ever disrespect your parents, or bring your siblings down. They’ll remember it forever.
3. Work hard, but stay humble. You don’t ever need to boast or brag about your accomplishments because the right people will know, and nobody else cares. Everyone else will forget, and refer to number 1.
4. Everything you do in your life will lead up to the success of your future wife/kids and family. What you do now, and throughout your younger years, will affect your future.
5. It’s ok to have fun and do what you want, as long as you don’t hurt yourself or anyone.
6. Your friends will always be your friends. I’m still friends with some of the same people from high school. There is no need to impress people, but there is a need to encourage people.
7. Always lend out a helping hand to those who don’t think they need it, especially to those not asking.
8. Don’t ever sneak out of the house. I know better, and it never leads to good things (like mommy and auntie Erica smashing a car when we ran away with it!!!)
9. Don’t grow up too fast. I don’t agree with skipping school, or skipping grades in school. Everything happens for a great reason, even the bad things.
10. ALWAYS be on time. That means being 10 minutes early. I was always late. Not cool.
11. Small Sacrifices leads to greater rewards.
12. Always stay organized, and prepare for the next day well before hand.
13. Never cease to appreciate your teachers and those who help you along the way. That means, bring them appreciation gifts and hugs!
14. Put yourself in other people’s shoes. Don’t judge others because everyone around you is fighting their own battles.
15. You’re no better than that kid who fails every class. If anything, you need to ask him or her if they’re ok, and lend a hand. They may have nobody to lean on.
16. Be yourself! And by that, refer to all of the above.
17. Don’t forget that every woman is meant to be a mom. Every girl is someone’s daughter. That’s someone’s sister. And all women should be respected as if she was your mother. She’s going to be someone’s mother someday, and you don’t want to set a bad example of what a good man is.
18. Treat everyone you meet the way you want to be treated. Be loyal to your closest friends. Honor your family. Respect yourself. Your sole
Purpose on this earth is to serve others. Do it well, and do it kindly.
I am now in a time in my life where everything has worked out exactly as it should have. I now appreciate every opportunity and person around me, and can’t wait to share more with you guys.
I’ll love you forever
I’ll like your for always
As long as I’m living
My baby you’ll be